When to ignore someone so hard they'll doubt their own existence
Published: Mon, 08/05/19
Here’s what he said:
(Paraphrased)
“If someone gives me drama they’re dead to me.”
As soon as he said it, I thought:
“Gee… that’s what I should be doing…”
But then, it dawned on me, that is what I have been doing for a long time already. Whether it was chicks pulling some incoherent drama… or people in business dredging up drama for attention… or even family members who couldn’t get their act togethers… I’ve long had an unofficial policy of freezing people out — and almost always on the first offense.
Why?
Because drama takes up mental “bandwidth.”
It takes away attention I could be putting into my business.
And, it takes away focus, since it’s a distraction.
The older I get, the more fun it is for me to freeze out people wanting to bring drama to my life.
Far as I’m concerned, they don’t exist.
I ignore them on all modes of communication.
And, in a few cases I can think of, I have had to ignore people so hard they probably started to doubt their own existence. Once someone tries to blame their problems on me, tries to manipulate me, tries to project their nonsense on me, steal from me, or play guilt-trips on me... they're out. Plus, I despise those types of idiots to such a degree I do it with a sadistic glee knowing how much of my time (which is limited and irretrievable) I’m saving, how much more peace of mind I’m gaining, and how much more success I’m acquiring simply as a result of getting rid of any of their low class jackassery.
Bonus:
Ignoring misery-spreading drama kings & queens causes the same reaction in their brain as physical pain... but without leaving any "marks."
Such is my contempt for these wretched beings.
“But Ben, that’s so meeeeaaaan!”
Probably.
Especially to people not used to being ignored or rejected, I have discovered.
But, if you aren’t ruthless in getting rid of the drama in your life, if you aren't ruthless in curating who you associate with (especially who you sell to...), and if you aren't ruthless in protecting your time... you won’t have any energy and attention and time left for the people who deserve it.
This is one of many reasons I wrote my Villains books.
I believe the mindset they teach makes jettisoning the crud easy.
And, also, guilt-free.
The 3rd book in the series will formally launch this week.
To read the first two before then, go here:
http://www.VillainsBook.com
Ben Settle