Why a lot of women despise this negotiation tip
Published: Wed, 01/20/21
Few years ago, one of my “Email Players” subscribers was dating a woman who had recently broken up with her long term boyfriend. He really liked this girl, but he was getting needy, and she was doing the manipulative hot/cold thing — giving him mixed signals, not texting him back for days at a time, and driving his neediness even higher.
Anyway, he asked for my diabolical guidance on this.
And, the first thing I told him was:
“Encourage her to try getting back with her ex boyfriend. She obviously still has some feelings for him or she’s simply not that in to you. Either way, this will get the truth out.”
Short story long?
He did just as I suggested.
And, she started opening up, telling him all kinds of things about her, like how she recently slept with her boss and a bunch of other things she never would have admitted to him before. She also suddenly started finding herself more attracted to my customer, to the point where she started wanting to hang out all the time and was texting him several times per day hoping to get together.
The irony was, he didn’t want her anymore at that point.
He was no longer attracted to her after getting the truth out of her.
Amusingly, when I first wrote about this a couple years ago in a daily email, a few people came out of the woodwork annoyed at Yours Cupid for telling men this. And, even more amusing, it became obvious it may very well be the most-hated negotiation secret of people trying to deceive and withhold info...
Anyway, he had this success because he didn’t fear or avoid No.
Instead, he sought it out.
If anything, she now wanted him, and he — being completely devoid of neediness — had the choice whether he wanted to keep dating her or not, and found he wasn’t even that attracted to her, freeing his mind and emotions to pursue a woman of higher quality & more in line with what he wanted.
Like I wrote last night:
No is the beginning, not the end, of a negotiation.
I don’t care if it’s to get a customer.
A client.
A girlfriend.
A vote.
A job.
A favor.
Or anything else.
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Ben Settle