elBenbo finally admits his P is small
Published: Tue, 04/16/19
J's vs P's
One of the most important lessons I learned about this subject is actually rather recent — as of about two years ago. That’s when I met and started dating a chick who specializes in using personality typing to close more clients and sales.
She mostly utilizes the infamous Myers-Briggs test.
And yes, she is the first to admit that test has flaws.
But, if you know how to use the parts that are useful, you can finagle it to very accurately predict people’s actions, know how they think and make decisions, and know exactly what they need to hear in order to make a favorable buying decision.
(i.e. hiring or buying from you)
Anyway, one of the things she taught Yours Scholarly is the difference between P’s and J’s.
These are Myers Briggs terms.
And, basically, everyone is either a P or a J.
Just like people are either an F (feeler) or T (thinker), an I (introvert) or E (extrovert), etc.
In this case, I learned never, ever to get into business with a P.
Hire them?
Yes.
Business partner with them?
In my case, no.
Why?
Because they do things completely differently than J’s.
A bloke like me whose J is big, but whose P is small... has a very rigid, deadline-oriented, task-centered view of the world. I love deadlines, live for a structured workday, and the idea of not having such an existence makes my toe nails itch. On the other hand a P (like her, and probably most people I’ve ever met) are the opposite.
For example:
I’ve done JVs with Ps before.
And, they always, Always, ALWAYS drove me nuts.
What I want is a checklist of things to do, so I can knock them out one-by-one, and get on with my other pursuits.
Not so the P.
The P is like, “let’s do this!” and they get very excited.
But then after you do that, they get distracted by something else.
And then they see yet another thing.
"Let's also do that, too!"
And another…
And another…
And they are all over the place.
I might think, “good that’s done, now I can get back to what I was doing…” only for the P to say, “Oh, hey, let’s do this too…”
Argh.
No.
To a J like me, they come off as flakey, and almost disrespectful of my time. But it’s not flakiness or disrespect. It’s just the animal they are. I have noticed P’s are actually some of the most effective business people there are, in fact. They just need a J to guide them (i.e an assistant who is a J, or a business parter who is a J, etc). That is why I will never get into business with a P, since realizing why I hate doing business with them so much, I basically become the responsible adult, and they remain children running amok with me chasing after them. I would, however, hire them as a coach or consultant if I ever wanted a coach or consultant. I have never hired a coach or a consultant, but I would hire a P if I did — precisely because they are paragons of fresh, new, exciting ideas and J’s tend not to be. We see an idea and run with it and rigidly enforce it, while a P will see other ways to enhance and make better that idea,
and approach it from new, exciting angles.
So what does this have to do with productivity?
Well, two things:
1. Find out — immediately — if you are a J or a P.
Also, this is not something you will yourself to be. You are either one or the other. If you are a P wishing you are a J or a J wishing you were a P, you might as well be a dog wishing your were a tarantula.
Honestly assess what you are.
The best way I know is to ask yourself:
Do you like deadlines?
Not need them, not wish you liked them, but actually enjoy them?
If so, you are probably a J.
If not, you are probably a P.
2. Now, run with that.
If you are a P don’t try to even bother getting shyt done early before the deadline.
i.e. don’t do your homework early like a J would do. Go with how you do things. I have found P’s do an extremely effective job — when they finally get around to it — once they actually do it. But if I try to fit them into my worldview as a J, they are miserable, rebellious, and do half-assed work.
On the other hand, if you are a J, just keep doing what you’re doing.
As, there’s a very small chance you are not already super productive.
All right, on to the business:
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(That is less exaggerated than it sounds…)
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Ben Settle