Success and happiness secrets of an anti-social loser
Published: Wed, 04/03/19
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Hello elBenbo,
I recently purchased both of your Villains books on Amazon. I really enjoyed reading them and they opened my eyes.
I even re-read them and typed up notes to refer back to later whenever I want to.
There is just one thing that’s really bothering me with the information and I’m pretty confuzzled.
I’m interpreting that in order to become a Villain, you have to become an anti-social loser.
Or maybe I’m just a dumbass and need to re-read a third time.
Working on your mission, beheading the time vampires, executing your inner nice guy.
They all seem like activities that turn people away from you.
“Tom hasn’t talked to us in a day what’s wrong with him, he won’t text me back?”
“Tom has become a real asshole lately.”
Now I have some pretty fucking annoying friends. There’s times when I tell them I don’t want to hang out and they absolutely roast my ass for doing so. “You’re not for the boys!”
I feel that if I become a Villain I might lose these friends and lose any social interaction that I have In this small town I live.
(That last sentence may or may not make me sound like a needy pussy.)
I just don’t see how this would make you a person that people are attracted to.
If you could shed any light on what I’m confused about that would be great.
I really enjoyed the books. I realized that throughout my life I was a needy loser that got walked all over on, disrespected, and now I’m fucking pissed.
That is never going to happen again.
Thank you.
Sincerely,
An Enlightened Customer (Tom)
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No, you don't have to be anti-social.
That’s just a perk for people like my humble self… who has not only been accused of being anti-social, but a loser too, by my gloriously self-loathing trolls and enemies…
In fact, being successful is the opposite of being a loser.
And you will find the activities you mentioned above elevate your Value — socially, commercially, romantically, and as a business (ie your personal brand).
More:
While I find most of the so-called “social sciences” (as with all soft sciences) to be mostly bull shyt, there is one oft-repeated nugget I not only believe to be 100% true, but have experienced as true — especially over the past 18 years of being in business for myself.
And that is, you become the sum total of those you spend the most time with.
If all you do is hang out with anti-social losers, then that’s what you’ll inevitably become.
If all you do is hang out with drug addicts, then that’s what you’ll inevitably become.
And, if all you do is hang out with the human equivalent of crabs, then that means every time you want to do something to escape the bucket you’re trapped in with, they will invariably pull you back in.
This applies both online (ie who you spend all day on social media) and offline.
Becoming successful at anything means change.
Change in mindset.
Change in attitude.
And, yes, change in environment.
All of which happens naturally when you not just read, but apply, the information inside my Villains books. It may not happen overnight, necessarily. But eventually you will start finding yourself in the company of much better friends, much better business owners, and much better people overall.
To paraphrase the late, great Earl Nightingale:
God created many animals that naturally change with their environment.
But only mankind was created with the ability to make our environment change with us.
Hokey?
If you think that, then that’s your first stumbling block.
A stumbling block anyone can remove this very day by reading (they are short — and can be read in one sitting, if you choose) and implementing my Villains books.
To read more about them, go here:
http://www.VillainsBook.com
Ben Settle