When to ignore someone so hard they'll doubt their own existence
Published: Mon, 12/03/18
Here’s what he said:
(Paraphrased)
“If someone gives me drama they’re dead to me.”
As soon as he said it, I thought, “That’s what I should be doing…”
But then, it dawned on me, that is what I have already been doing for a long time. Whether it was dames pulling some horse shyt drama… or people in business dredging up drama for attention… or even family members who couldn’t get their act togethers… I’ve long had an unofficial policy of freezing people out — and usually on the first offense.
Why?
Because drama takes up mental “bandwidth.”
It takes away attention I could be putting into my business.
And, it takes away focus, since it’s a distraction.
The older I get, the more fun it is for me to freeze out people wanting to bring drama to my life.
Far as I’m concerned, they don’t exist.
I block them on all modes of communication.
And, in a few cases I can think of, I have had to ignore people so hard they probably started to doubt their own existence. Once someone tries to blame their problems on me, tries to manipulate me, tries to project their nonsense on me, steal from me, or play guilt-trips on me... or they're out. Plus, I despise such people to such a degree I do it with a sadistic glee knowing how much of my time (which is limited and irretrievable) I’m saving, how much more peace of mind I’m gaining, and how much more success I’m acquiring simply as a result of getting rid of any of their low class jackassery.
“But Ben, that’s so meeeeaaaan!”
Probably.
Especially to people not used to being rejected, I am have discovered.
But, if you aren’t ruthless in getting rid of the drama in your life, if you aren't ruthless in curating who you associate with (including who you sell to...), and if you aren't ruthless in protecting your time... you won’t have any energy and attention and time left for the people who deserve it.
This is one of many reasons I wrote my Villains book.
I believe the mindset it teaches makes jettisoning the crud easy.
And, also, guilt-free.
To read more about it, go here:
http://www.VillainsBook.com
Ben Settle