Why I freeze people out
Published: Wed, 01/03/18
Here’s what he said:
(Paraphrased)
“If someone gives me drama they’re dead to me.”
As soon as he said it, I thought, “That’s what I should be doing…”
But then, it dawned on me, that is what I have been doing for a long time. Whether it was dames pulling some horse shyt drama… or people in business dredging up drama for attention… or even family members who couldn’t get their act togethers… I’ve long had an unofficial policy of freezing people out — and usually on the first offense.
Why?
Because drama takes up mental “bandwidth.”
It takes away attention I could be putting into my business.
And, it takes away focus, since it’s a distraction.
The older I get, the more fun it is for me to freeze out people wanting to bring drama to my life.
Far as I’m concerned, they don’t exist.
I block them on all modes of communication.
And, I ignore them so hard they start to doubt their own existence.
I also do it with a sadistic glee knowing how much of my time (which is limited and irretrievable) I’m saving, how much more peace of mind I’m gaining, and how much more success I’m acquiring as a result of getting rid of any low class jackassery.
“But Ben, that’s so meeeeaaaan!”
Probably.
Especially to people not used to being rejected.
But, if you aren’t ruthless in getting rid of the drama in your life, you won’t have any time or attention or energy left for the few people who deserve it. (Your customers, clients, family, friends, etc.)
This is one of many reasons I wrote my Villains book.
The mindset it teaches makes jettisoning the crud easy.
And, also, guilt-free.
To read more about it, go here:
http://www.VillainsBook.com
Ben Settle